Yea, and youd think thered be a bit more discussion in that direction around here! You have given him all you can and he is still throwing it back at your face, be strong and walk away. 3) If she loves U she will have eyes for NO ONE ELSE. Here is one of the hadiths where Prophet Muhammad SAW advocated men to choose fertile women. Why do you think men like buying women gifts? Analytical cookies are used to understand how visitors interact with the website. But we need to understand the spirit of the Islamic ruling first. You are certainly rare. AstafirAllah. I cannot imagine that all married men think about taking another woman. said to her: Enter Paradise from whichever of the gates of Paradise you And of course if a woman is not able, then its only logical she doesnt have to have intercourse, just think common sense, not everything has to be explained in detail for you. May Allah swt guide us all. Even if we do not want to do it. So if anyone is seriously thinking about polygamy they better be up for the job. Oh Dear how I understand you, my ex boyfriend, we were together for 5 years and hes Muslim. Sura Nisa Chapter 4. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger has certainly strayed into clear error. Am I guessing right to say he is not legal in your county ? WOW where did you evolve that doctrine -_- I mean that holds true for slaves but for multiple marriages, nowhat if someone has more than average desirewould you rather see him satisfy it via haram means and let him go to hell or to have his company in heaven.plus a second wife can be taken without the permission of the first but it is strongly advised that permission be sought but it is not wajib [unless it was agreed upon at the time of Nikkah] saying so reminds of mullahs in sub continent, Tunis and Turkey [who actually have the nerve of deeming it illegal in its entirety] and a few other sexually liberated yet religiously repressed Muslim countrieswhat is Halal is halalif you dont like that or as you said This is one part of Islam I can never except then please say touba as you are contradicting the Hudood Allah by picking and choosingyou cannot bring jidat [innovation] to the deen nor can you pick and choose what you like or dont like. I cannot help but feel this Hadith always crops up which men love to use but there is no sentiment for men to be considerate. To put him back on track, just reduce your level of love to the minimum level which is your duty, and he will do everything to get you and that extra love and care back I dont mean sex only, by Love. Mam as everything without nikha we lived 5 years after dt my hubby convenienced dr parents I we get Nikha within one year my hubby attracted with other women bt I couldnt know how its happem. Let's get this right out into the open.Some women might think men are narrow-minded brutes for this, but it's the truth.Men desire sex. Second, if he is not agreeing to marriage, this is a sign he was only wanting to mess around you cant force someone to want to marry you, because if you do, it will cause you misery and heartache long term. No. I repented, not once in my life did I think my action worthy of repentance because I had done nothing wrong. My above statement was based on what I have understood from the article. However, he would have failed to give her own right, and fulfilling the right of a muslim is an obligation, as such, he would have committed a sin. we have to do so. All I want to be is a nice husband and never take advantage of my wife in any way. Dont keep threatening him with words, you need to show you mean it and do it. coz its natural, most people are inclined toward people who show concern, respect etc over them. But if they want it to be real, they need to think about what the wife REALLY wants and needs, instead of whats easier for them. Stop being selfish. Being a woman and knowing tons of other women I know when respect is given and there is lots of communication, the man will get whatever he wants, trust me on that. Nura [not her real name] is a 42-year-old Kenyan woman. 30 January, 2022 Q I am a converted Muslim from the UK. They are just doing it for their selfish reasons. I need my wife to take care of me as mentioned. Recently, I found marriage sites on our laptop. I also find it kind of wrong how the writer kind of placed the responsibility of being faithful on the wife. I love my husband so deeply and wholeheartedly that i can never even imagine myself being attracted to another man. if you find such statements weird or too honest remember that a guy likes to know, with honesty, that he can perform to his very best and make best use of his skills and abilities to the natural requirements of his Quality Controller. But he sends all love messages to his 2 nd wife. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO IM TERRIBLY HURT PLEASE HELP ME WITH AN ADVICE ANYONE I LET MY PRIDE ALWAYS FOR HIM BUT NOW I CANT GET OVER THIS OR FORGET THIS. . go on youtube and look for a video call things woman should know about man. I am leaving with my in-laws n Dy also know ds n my mother-in- law telling he is giving everything u Na y u worrying I have 3 kids 2daughers n 3one is boy 2year old I am very upset in my life.. physically. Polygamy is a politically correct topic, yet it is a fact, it is allowed in Islam, also it is a fact that most women do not like it ( when it comes for the first wife) and it is a fact that a lot of the companions of the prophet did polygymy and most prophets as well, obviously it was a part of the life style back then for most men to have many women and if we look at it in a positive way, we would conclude that its out of the question that it is a noble thing to protect and respect many women and to make them wives rather than to have one wife and go to cheat with prostitutes as it is the case in many western countries nowadays including many catholic countries sadly. The Muslim should not pray istikhaarah about Islam Q&A, You can ask your question on the website via this link: https://islamqa.info/en/ask, Password should contain small, capital letter and at least 8 characters long, Log in Bottom line is this the wife was respectful to him. So my long question is, is what I am doing wrong and how can I control my desires so as to please Allah. After all my warnings and threats of leaving he abandoned the idea. this young man will treat you as nicely after marriage as he does now? But its true (usually). However, this is not the only opinion or interpretation of how to do this. He is a man and capable of anything. Thanks. ITS THE HOLY QURAN SO ITS ALLAH WORDS THAT WE R TO OBEY CLEARLY ALLAH KNOWNS ALL THINGS TO B TRUE . Men may be the bread winners but life is not complete without a wife. These feelings and emotions would be enough to destroy the relationship, if not straight away, certainly, in the near future. But we just cant treat you the same way he (pbuh) treated his wives. Does the husband need the first wifes permission to have a second wife? Whatever Allaah makes easy for him Wat she really wanta is ur love, patience, to feel safe and secure in her marriage. (i.e., Ramadaan) and guards her chastity and obeys her husband, it will be Then came the third time, and he said: Marry a good and fertile woman, for I am proud of your multitudes against the other peoples.(HR Abu Dawud and Shaykh al-Albani), Another factor that allows a man to make a second marriage is due to an illness suffered by his wife. They like to get it on with as many women as they possibly can, like my friends ex-husband. If youre loyal to your husband, than rest assured hell be loyal to you. This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. Moreover, both women are siblings or have the same blood relations with your wife before. The least of the 7th pts however is #4. He is weak in Taqwa. If she walks in, I walk out! Other uncategorized cookies are those that are being analyzed and have not been classified into a category as yet. He told me that his first wife knows that he is intending to marry again but that she is obviously not supportive of the idea and that he doesnt know what her reaction will be when he tells her that he had found someone. The punishment for giving out wrong information is severe. A womans being patient in obeying her husband is one of the @Marij Usmani I jus wanna say just because this is what you would wanna do to your woman doesnt make it right. I knew he loved me and he truly did but he loved to have sex with. Sex hormones are released in the adult body every day. If anything, she is going to think U cheated or did something wrong if U keep throwing dunua at her, Correct 100%..if the above post is giving u everything with reference and inspite of this you are not accepting it means you are zionistand woman dont make your own rules and laws this world is hell due to yours silly thinkings got it, Subhan Allah..JazakAllah,.. India has more male population than female due to female foeticide and infanticide. However, I could be a second wife, no problem but I could NOT EVER be a first wife whose husband then took a second. ALLAH is great. I dont know what happened to the women and children. As for Muslimah, do always remember Allah knows everything and he is mercy full, so what will you do .. Will you make DUA asking Allah Arabbi. that one thing man need just like food and drink. The cookie is set by the GDPR Cookie Consent plugin and is used to store whether or not user has consented to the use of cookies. What about 7 things your wife wont tell you? If the husband takes a second wife, the wife has a right to divorce him. Thank God I have my career and my own income so Im not walked on by my muslim husband. How can he trust you if you Marriage Dream Explanation Seeing a woman taking a second husband can have three interpretations: (1) If she is pregnant, she will give birth to a girl. very nice.. now all we have to do is FIND ourselves nice husbands worthy of all what u have written in the article above..but to add a point, women are not servants.. they are mans partners.. equal partners in life. Both of you need to brush up on Islamic knowledge and discussions pertaining to polygamy. (4) Will give birth to virtuous children. 1 - Her husband's marrying another wife is regarded as a test and trial for her, and if she bears that with patience she will have the reward for being patient in the face of a trial, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): "Only those who are patient shall receive their reward in full, without reckoning" [al-Zumar 39:10] Make sure you marry a good person that will oblige to your wishes that is all. Salaam sister, quesrion; you dont rhink we are in times of war? We live in 2014 people, not 600 BC lol. In general, being single and dreaming you are married is a good sign, but . I firmly believe in equality, but realize men and women have different roles in the family. Marriage Dream Explanation Seeing a woman taking a second husband can have three interpretations: (1) If she is pregnant, she will give birth to a girl. Great Britain has four million more females as compared to males. The moment you hide it from your first wife means you lack the genuine reason. You have a nerve to say all men want another woman at some time. You also have the option to opt-out of these cookies. You might not like it or want to practice it but thats fine. As described in one of the verses of the Quran below. its haram to do that. That is, after such a divorce, the husband will separate the relationship with the wife. Moreover, after praying istikhaarah the Muslim should resolve U cannot judge Islam as for a single Muslim because most of the Muslims in the world do not actually/fully follow Islamic teachings & this is the main reason everybody/non Muslims abuse Muslims, u should read English version of Quran then u will understand. Some scholars do not consider it an obligation for the husband to inform his wife of another marriage. His duty is to protect and provide for the family, even if the wife is stronger and wealthier. We're best friends who can talk about anything with each other. You need to make taubah and try to learn more. The same society, however, cannot accept a man having more than one wife, in which women retain their honourable, dignified position in society and lead a protected life. The future marriage will be a happy one. I hardly ever hear any good. Dont get angry if your wife is not thrilled by certain gestures someone else told you drives women crazy. Though Islam permits man to have more than a wife, it stipulates that certain conditions are to be met in this regard, for Islam's main focus is on building a stable marital life. Broadly, Islam has five categories of Dos and Donts. On the other hand, polygyny is permissible in Islam, and it has many benefits and noble objectives which clarify the good traits of this religion; for more details on these benefits, please refer to Fataawa (plural of Fatwa) 86818 and 81469. Its NOT more rights which you have over us. Thanks for advice. 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